Recently, I sat with a group of fellow coaches, and we touched upon the ubiquitous challenges that corporate employees face and how we, as coaches, can better assist them.
Our conversation highlighted some striking self-limiting beliefs:
- The idea that revealing vulnerability is akin to showcasing weakness.
- The pervasive thought that work-life balance is a mere myth, more so in the world of startups or in higher echelons.
Additionally, certain fear-driven behaviors emerged:
- The reluctance to voice opinions, fearing manager repercussions.
- The need to stretch work hours as a proof of dedication.
This led me to a realization: corporate culture is deeply entrenched in fear. I've personally navigated this space:
- I remember leaving early to pick up my son from daycare, only to face comments about my work ethic. My manager stepped in, noting that I'd continue working post returning home.
- I've often chosen silence over delivering feedback that might be perceived as negative, all to avoid potential backlash.
In essence, it's not just about limiting beliefs; it's genuinely about the fears:
- Fear of receiving a less-than-stellar review.
- Fear of promotions being just out of reach.
- The looming dread of being the first casualty in layoffs.
While employees invest long hours, the question remains: Is it about the hours or the impact? Sometimes, the result isn't in sync with the expectations of the role.
I was taken aback once when a manager I knew said, "I give lower ratings, thinking it will push individuals to work harder."
With such a mindset prevailing, it's no wonder so many express feelings of exhaustion. The mere mention of rejuvenation lights up their eyes, pointing towards the increasing burnout cases.
If this resonates with you, it’s time for some introspection:
- What fears are holding you back?
- What happens if they materialize?
The act of confronting your fears often diminishes their grip. Remember the tale of The Wizard of Oz? The much-feared wizard was but a man behind a curtain. It's similar with our fears.
When the weight of fear eases, your brain's approach shifts. In a high-alert situation, survival instincts dominate. Once safe, a broader perspective surfaces, revealing previously unseen paths.
I've heard some colleagues say they're trapped between two choices:
- Bear the status quo.
- Or simply walk away.
I challenge that. I believe more avenues await, becoming visible once the shroud of fear is lifted.
So, if fear is dictating your life's rhythm, are you truly living? I urge you to embrace courage and steer towards the authentic life you aspire to live.
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