Letter to the woman who’s hesitating right now

This is a letter to the woman who's hesitating right now.

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You had goals, dreams. You worked really hard for it.

And now, you reach a place where things are good. You’re respected. You’re treated well. You know your work. You feel safe and comfortable.

But, deep inside, this is not where you want to be.

You want something different, something bigger.

And yet… this time, it feels harder.

Back then, you were young. You hadn’t built anything yet. There was nothing to lose.

But now? You’ve built a career. You have a job, a reputation, people who rely on you. There’s a lot at stake.

So you play small.

When you feel that spark of desire, but it’s not totally clear what that is, you call it silly.

“I should be thankful for what I have. It’s silly I have this desire to quit and do something else,” you tell yourself.

When you don’t see a perfect path to your dream, you assume there is no good path—and start to justify why it’s a good idea not to pursue your dream.

“I’ve seen people who have what I want. They don’t have work-life balance. They don’t see their family. I don’t want that life. So I’m not giving up my dream, I’m protecting what’s more important to me.”

But the truth is, those paths didn’t always exist. Someone built them. You can too.

Maybe you won’t do it alone. Maybe you’ll create a new path alongside others—the one that others will walk after you.

My grandmother was not allowed to study. My mother was not allowed to have a job. I was allowed to do both.

That didn’t happen overnight. That happened because each generation carved out a little more space for the next.

So if your dream feels like it requires too much sacrifice, try pursuing it without sacrificing. See where the real boundary is. If you don’t try, you don’t know the boundary. If you don’t know it, you can’t expand it.

If your dream feels impossible, at least try and find out where it breaks. That’s still progress.

And you may be surprised how far you can go when you don’t give up first.

Don’t give up first. Push the boundaries. So your impossible dream becomes your daughter's starting point.

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This is letter to my younger self, who hesitated many times.

Does it feel like it’s written to you, too? What dream are you giving up right now?

You are not alone.

I’m here, rooted for you.